Monday, December 24, 2012

Filling in the Blanks

It's been a long time since I posted.  So very much has happened that I can't go back and recap everything.  I'll just hit the highlights.  I'm hoping in the new year to blog more.

The most important change has been my last name!  J and I got married on December 8th.  The ceremony was absolutely beautiful.  Not everything went perfect (I lost his ring before the ceremony, there was a mix up with the groom's vest, and the pastor didn't say the vows I gave him) but despite those little setbacks, I had a wonderful day.  It was an amazing feeling to become J's wife and for him to become my husband.  It also meant the world to me that almost all the important people in my life were there for me.  I was missing one important person, and am still sad that he wasn't there, but it was still a beautiful day.  All the little details seemed to fall into place and it was wonderful.

I appreciated so much everything everyone did to make it a wonderful day.  My mom and sister being there for me and being with me through the day meant so much.  I was glad my dad was there too.  

I think I learned a few things about this whole wedding business.  Not that I can go back and redo it, but maybe I can pass along a few pieces of advice to the next bride.  

Don't try to do everything yourself.  That's pretty much what I did.  I didn't delegate all the projects I had or trust pretty much anyone to help me take care of the little details.  It was overwhelming at times to think of everything I had to do.  I didn't know how to ask for help or tell anyone how to help me.  The episode with losing the ring could have been avoided had I given it to my maid of honor to keep up with like you're supposed to.  I had so many things going on in my head that I missed that one little but very important thing.

I did have my mom handling all my apparel and my bridesmaids apparel, so that was a huge relief.  She sewed all of our dresses and they turned out amazing.  She is one amazing and talented lady. 

We had a lot of fun on our Honeymoon.  It was the first time J and I have taken a vacation together, just us.  I loved spending one on one time with my new husband and not worrying about other stuff. I just finished making a Shutterfly book with all the photos I took on the honeymoon.  I am so very excited to get our wedding photos back too!  I have seen 4 of them that the photographer has posted on her blog.  So far, this one is my favorite.  

J is working today (Christmas Eve) and tomorrow.   My family won't be in the state until Wednesday, so I'll go see them this weekend.  It is a weird feeling to be alone on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day.  I have never had to do that before.  Last Christmas was weird enough because I didn't see my family Christmas Day.  This is worse, not being with anyone.  I don't love that with J's job he has to work holidays sometimes.    Not just part of the day, but 12 hours.  I know it's an important job, but I miss him at times.  I know that it's not the actual day that makes the time with family special, it's just gathering and spending time together.  But I will still miss my family tomorrow.  Can't wait to see them this weekend. 

Merry Christmas everyone.  Cherish those new memories made and special times spend with those close to you, no matter what day it is.